What is Sex?

Well, it depends! Most of time we're talking about something you do not just whether you're a girl or a guy. Sex can include many things you can do either by yourself or with other people. 

Sexual feelings are exciting and, because they are, it is easy to get carried away. Sexual activities can be everything from kissing to intercourse from holding hands and hugging to fondling and touching another person. Sexual activities can also be things you do all by yourself like masturbating or pleasuring yourself sexually.

Virginity is the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse. There are cultural and religious traditions which place special value and significance on this state, especially in the case of unmarried females, associated with notions of personal purity, honor and worth. The concept of virginity usually involves moral or religious issues and can have consequences in terms of social status and in interpersonal relationships. The term virgin originally only referred to sexually inexperienced women, but has evolved to encompass a range of definitions, as found in traditional, modern, and ethical concepts.

There are varying understandings as to which types of sexual activities result in loss of virginity. The traditional view is that virginity is only lost through vaginal penetration by the penis, consensual or non-consensual, and that acts of oral sex , anal sex , mutual masturbation or other forms of non-penetrative sex do not result in loss of virginity.  Whether a person can lose his or her virginity through rape is also subject to debate, with the belief that virginity can only be lost through consensual sex being prevailed.

For most teens, the issue of virginity is a big deal. Your body is changing, and your hormones are waking up. That's what triggers sexual desire and feelings of attraction to others. Sometimes these new feelings can make you feel as if it's the right time to have sex, even though it may not be. Having sexual intercourse may seem like a simple thing, but it is actually very complicated. It affects not just your body, but your mind and your feelings not to mention your partner's. It can also affect your future. That's why it's so important to think carefully before you act. By the way, some girls think that if they've had a bit of test at the gynecologist's office, they are no longer a virgin. This is not true. Losing your virginity involves sexual penetration. You can't lose your virginity by using a tampon either. Someone who practices sexual abstinence "abstains" from sexual intercourse. This means that she has made a commitment to wait until she is married or in a committed relationship to have sex. Some young people, as well as some adults, practice abstinence even after they've lost their virginity because they decide to save their next sexual experience for someone they truly love. Some teens are abstinent for religious or moral reasons; others want to wait for personal reasons.

You may have heard that if you stay a virgin for too long, you won't be able to have kids. That is absolutely wrong. Being a virgin now will not hurt your chances of having a family later on. In fact, it increases your chances of not having STDs that can make it hard or impossible to get pregnant when you're older.

So what are the downsides of virginity? Staying a virgin can be sexually frustrating. You may be curious about sex, and a part of you may really want to have intercourse. Luckily, there are still plenty of ways to express yourself emotionally and physically without having intercourse. First, you can fantasize. Fantasies are fun, free, safe and you don't even need a partner.  Being a virgin could mean that you're not quite as popular with some of the kids at school. But, in case you were wondering, no one can tell by looking at you that you are a virgin. That's a myth! And also keep in mind that some of the stories you hear about people's sexual experiences may be a little bit exaggerated or maybe not true at all.

It’s a mixture of medical and social advantages.
There are many advantages to being a virgin. The most obvious is that you won't have to worry as much about getting pregnant. Remember, even if no penis has entered your vagina , you can still get pregnant if sperm comes in contact with your vaginal area. 

Every year, more than one million teens become pregnant. About 70 percent of these teen mothers are unmarried, and more than 40 percent drop out of school. Being pregnant would change your life forever. Staying a virgin also means you are much less likely to get STDs, like HIV/AIDS , HPV (genital warts) , herpes , Chlamydia, gonorrhea , and syphilis , to name a few. STDs can lead to death, cause infertility and cancer, and be passed down to your children. 

Every year, three million teenagers get a sexually transmitted disease.  If you wait to have sex, you'll also save yourself a lot of emotional trauma. Studies show that teen sexual involvement usually does not last. The disappointment can make you feel hurt, used, lonely, confused and angry. It could take some time to recover and to regain your trust in relationships. 

In fact, many girls say they wish they had waited. Waiting can give you a chance to pursue other interests and goals. It can also allow you to develop deeper relationships that don't depend on sex. If you decide to wait, you'll probably want to talk with friends and family about your decision. Hang out with people who respect your choices. Avoid drugs and alcohol: they usually lead to risky behavior.

By Ademola Jayesimi

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